Queens and Kings

Okay, so I gotta type this quick (I’m in-between classes and I still have to pack to go home). So (some of you will know this from my previous posts) I’m a fan of Jaimie Grace aaaaand…she just released her first new song in three years! Party like a Princess is one of the most repetitive songs I have ever heard, but it’s got an amazing message and beat. Go check it out. Anyway. Here’s how the beginning of the song goes:

When I walked into the party everybody just stopped/Even the DJ wasn’t ready, to see me without/A boy who isn’t ready, to be a king/So tell me why would I be chasing him to be his queen/Don’t you know, who my daddy is/Don’t you know, what my daddy did/Don’t you know, who my daddy is/He paid it all, I’m the belle of this ball, so I’m gonna party like a princess…

This is an idea I came across recently (there’s an app called Sprinkle of Jesus that’ll pop out ‘food for thought’ one or two times a day) that said something along the lines of ‘Why are you waiting for someone to treat you like a Queen unless you know how to treat him like a King’. Ignore the horrible grammar in that sentence for a minute. That idea stuck with me.

Isn’t that an absolutely shocking idea? We are told that the girls should be waiting for someone to treat them like a Queen and not settle for someone who will abuse that. But I also want to suggest this – when society slams girls who are super bossy and overbearing (I’m NOT talking about girls who are just confident in themselves), they are actually slamming them for not being Queens. Because you see, being a Queen is also a responsibility. Think about a Queen of a country (medieval times, not a figurehead like Queen Elizabeth). The Queen was in charge of the castle. She supported him and offered him wisdom and counsel when he needed it. If the King was away at war, SHE was the one who protected the castle. She was supposed to be just but strict. She raised their children (with help from the maids sometimes). And, perhaps most importantly, she submitted to her husband.

I’ll elaborate on this later, in a separate post. But think about that, ladies. Why are you waiting to be treated like a Queen when you don’t know how to treat him like a King?

Anger, Frustration, and Wrath

Hey guys. This is something that has impacted me a lot, so I kinda wanted to write about it The name says it all; I’m talking about anger, wrath, and frustration in Christians.

Here is what the Bible says about it:

  • But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth. Colossians 3:8
  • Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil. Psalms 37:8
  • Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20
  • Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
    Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Galatians 5:19-20
  • Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
    Neither give place to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27
  • For wrath killeth the foolish man, and envy slayeth the silly one. Job 5:2
  • The desire of the righteous is only good: but the expectation of the wicked is wrath. Proverbs 11:23
  • A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife. Proverbs 15:18
  • Who knoweth the power of thine anger? even according to thy fear, so is thy wrath. Psalms 90:11
  • Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:9
  • And more…

The Bible makes it clear: wrath is not the fruit of the spirit but the fruit of the flesh. Let me ask you something – if you saw someone standing on the corner screaming at someone, or even just obviously angry, would you think they were Christian? No. You would immediately be saddened by their separation from God. This is so important, and so often overlooked. When you get angry bad things happen. How many times have we heard of broken people who got angry and couldn’t stop themselves from hitting their spouse? How many times have we heard of someone pushing someone else in anger, leading to the other’s injury or death? And what about the fear? To be screamed at? To be afraid of being pushed out of the way simply because you’re not moving quickly enough? What if you were on the streets? Wrath and anger do not show God. They have their place – God has gotten angry, and he’s shown his wrath many times. But his anger is holy, as is his wrath. We can let him deal with that; it has no place in us. So often we focus on other sins – adultery, murder, heart problems of any sort, etc. – but when was the last time you heard a sermon about anger? It’s a difficult topic. Not many want to hear it, and how exactly do you go about it? But this is so, so important. Being wrathful or angry doesn’t necessarily mean there is abuse – but it can mean fear. It can mean fear for your spouse, your kids, your friends, the people around you. I don’t know about anyone else, but I don’t want to be afraid of the people I love.

So, I don’t have some stunning – or even mediocre – revelation about this. But please – if you know you struggle with anger, don’t leave it alone. It’s just like any other sin: it’s an addiction, and you need to be held accountable. Talk it over with a friend or a pastor. Yes, you’re a broken person asking for help. News flash: so is every. single. person. around you. If they don’t think so, it’s probably pride. You never know what secrets someone is hiding and afraid to let out. You do, however, know you aren’t alone. God doesn’t say “He’s angry, he doesn’t need my help.” He says, “My beautiful child, let me help. Let me give you strength to follow me. Let me carry your burdens.” God’s got your back.

P.S., this applies to girls too. It’s not gender-exclusive.

 

Also, since I didn’t mention frustration specifically above, I’ll mention it here. Frustration can lead to all sorts of problems. Frustration is the beginning sign of a heart problem, and it’s a good indicator to take preventative measures. Take a deep breath. For good or for worse, you aren’t dead yet.